Jeremy…. I agree with you and we can do things about this. The problem is most offenders are too scared to have their own voice. Let’s communicate about this. Reply back and I’ll give you my info so we can start working on this

I understand how you feel and why you feel that way! I used to feel just as scared and betrayed as you do. I’ve gained a lot of strength from being a part of a documentary called Untouchable. I’m not ashamed anymore and I want to make chances with the law. It will not be an easy fight but I believe that if people required to register would stand up together (even with the fear of being recognised) we could have a voice. The reason laws keep getting passed is because offenders are too afraid to stand up against the laws the government wants to pass. I challenge you to find that inner strength and join me in trying to change some laws. Reply back if you wanna know what you can do to help in this cause! Keep you head up!

My husband has been on the registry for nearly 15 years. He has NEVER paid a fee. (aside from his soul) Monetarily, anyway, not since he was on probation ages ago. But never for the registry.

WRONG!!!! My husbands story is much the same. Nearly 15 years ago, in some off the grid back road town in FLORIDA he was with his “girlfriend”, they were both residents of North Carolina. Where the law is different. He was 24, she was 17. But in Florida, they were pulled over and carded. She (the 17 year old) had marijuana on her. She didn’t get charged. He did. For “Sexual activity with a minor 16/17 years of age”. We currently live in North Carolina, where the law does NOT recognize his charge here. He has been on the registry since we moved (back) here in 2008 after his judge in Florida deemed his case a “Romeo and Juliet” Case. As of 2016, He is still on the registry, we have attempted to have his record expunged, “No” was the answer. Nothing more from a florida attorney. No one will even look at this. The law here states that he doesn’t have to register after 10 years, WOOOHOOO, that’s coming up next June.. YAYYYY, Nope. Sorry wrong. The state of Florida requires that ALL OF IT’S REGISTERED SEX OFFENDERS regardless of their current location MUST REGISTER IN THEIR STATE OF RESIDENCE FOR 25 YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 25 YEARS!!!!! Oh that 10 year expiration in your state does NOT matter. I live here. Im living this. We have 3 children. 2 are high school seniors, both graduating this year, he may not even be allowed to attend the graduation of our daughters (my biologicals, not his) he only can if he checks in, and is followed around by an SRO officer. Can I tell you that their graduation is NOT on campus, it is in the local Arena. He has NEVER seen that girl again. She did not testify against him, he admitted to having had sex with her. But he didn’t admit to doing it specifically in Florida, but Florida still got him. And now they have him for the next 12+ years. By then, OUR son will graduate, he will play hundreds of basketball games, and even more award ceremonies, parent/teacher conferences. AND GOD FORBID I ever have to go out of town and my son gets sick, or hurt, his DADDY can’t even be there for him. He can’t pick him up from school, he can’t watch him in all of his accomplishments. He is a Business owner, HIGHLY recommended by every single one of his customers. Some know about him, some don’t. Some don’t care, but others might. Now our local News station has decided to list the “Sex offenders” regardless of their situation (maybe they got drunk at a bar and took a piss by their car) on a public forum, Facebook, and their regular website, for people to just start bashing him. As if it’s not bad enough our kids are constantly affected by this in one way or another. It’s awful. It’s wrong. This can’t be the only way to live life after one stupid mistake of opening your mouth. Im on a MISSION, hear me ROAR. This is wrong. Un-constitutional, and simply destroying lives. One of our old neighbors even stalked my husband. Followed him everyone. Took pictures of him talking to people, to children (our children) went to the local elementary school on more than 40 occassions and signed in under his name. He was arrested one year later for this 40 incidents of being at a school he had only once ever been to (he was given special permission the one time) yet, with sex offenders on the registry it’s a “arrest now, ask maybe later” kind of thing. They arrested him. He had to go to court and fight it. We won. For the time being. But she then posted his face on every pole in the neighborhood, because him being on the “registry” allows her to do so. Why is it just bundled up?? But, the guy next door could have murdered his mom 10 years ago and we would never ever know. Unless, we find his name, look it up, and the internet doesn’t help this either. Just because he murdered someone doesn’t mean his conviction will show up. It might. But it might not. If you google my husbands name, That registry comes up first, EVERY SINGLE TIME.

Same here, 10 years of registration started 14 years ago. I was a teenager and so was my “victim”. She lied about herror age and I’ve taken all of the responsibility. All of the polygraph tests, discrimination, and ridicule that go along with being a SO.

Thanks for the reply. I still am living in fear because I don’t know what will go on in my direction. I pray the guy doesn’t release my real name to people. That would put my family in jeopardy as well as me! There are still people with pitchforks out there these days. But, now, the pitchforks are computer keyboards and cell phones.

It’s become easier to smear someone and ruin their lives. The registry helps this. I honestly think the registry will NEVER be done away with because it is a steady source of revenue for the states in so many ways: the men and women who have to PAY for the privilege of being on the registry, and the paranoid public that ostracizes them and does everything they can to boot them out of their living areas – even to the point of false accusations. Being on the registry, you are automatically assumed guilty more than you were when you were accused in the first place.

It’s sad. But, this is what our society has sunk to: a bunch of over-paranoid people with entirely too much influential power in their pockets and on their desks.

It makes one wonder if the powers to be haven’t raised children to such a high social status that everyone else is just dirt, and no matter what, doing everything short of killing them is what they deserve….

ALL of these laws are based on emotion, the registry included (that’s a fact by the lack of addressing all empirical evidence for the uselessness of the registries existence they refuse to accept). The courts HAVE to see how much damage this is causing people. They refuse to accept the truth of the registry (that’s it’s a punishment) and look the other way to continue the fiasco. That is corruption at the lowest level.

The courts don’t care how much trauma a girl goes through if the defendant has the strength to take the case to trial. Also, the courts sure don’t care about the damage done to the defendants life they set out to destroy. When the court is done shaming the girl on the stand by forcing her to admit to a sexual dalliance she was responsible for, they then turn and look at the defendant and say all this trauma they just forced this girl to endure is his fault! What on earth is wrong with the system? Are they that blind? Or is hatred just so easy of an emotion for rational people to fall into that they can’t help themselves, thus making the charges and subsequent punishments GROSSLY over exaggerated?

That said, who’s to blame for this society blessed hatred? It’s as though the entire court room, and judicial branch is just a huge lure for parents to express their unbridled hatred towards a simple mistake someone made in their life. The parents obviously can’t control their daughter, so they drag some helpless, clueless soul into court for their own teenagers promiscuity. Beings they can’t raise their children properly, the courts have to do so. Only it isn’t the teenager who takes the fall. If people had the one simple fact of the human race in their mind (that basically most all people are good), then there should be an avenue for such a person to rebuild their lives after the courts have their way by destroying it.

We had a parting of the ways. Other people who were his friends – and didn’t know about my conviction – had problems with me personally out of jealousy due to how close I was becoming with THEIR friend. So, they badmouthed me and soon I was no longer this guy’s friend. He used the logic of being friends with THEM longer than with me. So, recently, this guy had an issue with me and was spying on me in a public chat room. He went on a tear and blurted out about every detail of what happened to me! I couldn’t believe it! I really should have known better than to trust ANYONE online that I don’t know with details about me: my real name was included, but thankfully not in his rant. He even has my picture! So, if this guy wanted to, he could ruin my life.

This is where the registry comes in. The crime I got convicted of was a simple possession of materials crime. No manufacturing. No dissemination. Nothing. But, me being on the Registry for life will always make me someone who has to constantly hide from society. It’s never been more clear to me about that than now. If this guy felt like it, he could expose my REAL NAME to anyone he wanted. So, thanks to the Registry, those people could track me down and do who-knows-what to me or my family! Is this justice? Is it right that I have to hide for the rest of my life from society because of some images that I never downloaded? Even if I HAD downloaded the images, is it still right? I don’t think so. The Registry doesn’t include politicians, wealthy people, police & other public servants, and people in the entertainment industry who have committed FAR worse crimes – some with ABSOLUTELY no remorse! Even the family members of public figures and authorities get excused from the Registry if they have committed sex crimes.

It’s really stunning how low our society has sunk and how much it HASN’T evolved from those fateful times in Salem, Massachusetts back in the 1600’s.

We have a new administration in office. I wonder if a petition of redress for all these sex “crimes” isn’t in order? At what age does a girl become culpable for her actions? Well, if she’s 14 or 15 and kills someone, the courts will have a field day in an attempt to adjudicate her as an adult. If she willingly, and forcefully makes unwanted advances towards an older man and forces him to touch her, then instantly she’s a “victim”. Victim… don’t make me go there, it’s a rant I won’t stop with. The courts have USED the “sex” hysteria to abuse their powers to inflate their own agenda to make any event where a sex body part is involve into a crime. It is NOT… I repeat NOT EVER (EVER!!!!!) about protecting a promiscuous girl, or stopping her from destroying mens lives. She receives no punishment, except maybe from her parents, and that’s little to none as the detectives direct the girl that she doesn’t have to discuss anything about the case with them. This isn’t’ anything about what she is responsible for, the game is for the courts to play to destroy a life for their gain.

Sadly, this country is headed with its sex offenses where it was with segregation back in the 60’s. The courts, DA’s, even parents LOVE this crap. It justifies their anger for what their daughter did and what they obviously can’t control. They can pin it all on one man and destroy his life, all while crying “This is what you get, you harmed a child!!” If the Supreme court doesn’t put their foot down to all these emotionally founded sex “crimes”, let alone the registry, then there will soon come a day when nearly half the citizens are on the registry. It’s just a matter of time. I don’t see the registry numbers going down any.

Just a last thought, what’s wrong with a federal mandatory age of culpability for involvement in these events that lead to an arrest?